People in general tell all kinds of lies. Some folks only tell the little social white lies such as saying, "I can't meet you for lunch because I have a meeting"....or the tell someone they love their hair color when they don't mean it at all. I hate this kind of stuff and make every effort not to do these things. I do, however, accept that these things happen, a lot. What really concerns me though, are the relationship lies that many people tell.
When we're in a relationship with someone shouldn't we treat them with respect by telling them the truth? If we lose interest in them, should we tell them? If we start having feelings for someone else, should we tell them? In my opinion, if we want to preserve the relationship we are in, we need to be truthful. So often I have heard it said that a person withheld the truth or told a lie in order to protect their partner. Since when do lies protect people?
I think most of us can handle the hurt we feel from being told the truth. We'll suffer for a while, but hopefully, we'll work through the problem with our loved one or another person who cares about us. Most of us have a much more difficult time handling the pain caused by lies. Finding out something hurtful and adding lies on top of it is a double whammy! Not only do we suffer the painful truth, but also the painful realization that our loved one cannot be trusted to share that truth. Since most relationships need trust to succeed, it's my opinion that telling lies destroys relationships.
People are human and we all make mistakes but is telling a lie a mistake, or a deliberate act to protect ourselves?
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