Never let it be said that you don't try the best you can, the best you are able to, when it comes to important things like your children. Sometimes due to the stress of everyday living, bills, relationships, our past life and our problems coping in the present, our children tend to slip down the list of our priorities.
Well, now that I have sugar-coated it real nice-like, have you ever heard the saying, "The buck stops here"? You are not going to help your kids with their current problems by giving them advice, not after they have become teens and older. Not after they have become really screwed up because of your example.
I am a firm believe that when you become 18, you are on your own. You must retain the positive traits your parents have instilled in you and reject the negative. Try presenting that concept to your 18 year old, but have your ears covered when they respond with advice on where you need to go.
It took me until I was 50 years of age before I started accepting the positive and rejecting the negative traits of my parents. Best get your kids and your grandkids to the top of your priority list. That's what comes first, next keep your mouth shut. They don't want your advice, they need your example and it's never too late to start setting that example.
Don't even bother, if money, a new house, a new car, a job, or other things are more important to you. I will feel sorry for you, when you are looking out the window 40 years from now longing for someone to come and visit you.
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Children, Reflections of Your Self…….by David
Sunday, February 24th, 2008Hope For All……….by Susan
Saturday, February 2nd, 2008
I try my hand at writing poetry when I'm especially depressed. I wrote this poem a few years ago when I was going through a bad spell of depression and sadness. The past few days have been a bit troublesome for me and I thought of this poem again and decided to share it with you.
We share our stories sad and true
sometimes we don't know what to do.
We cry, we moan, we wail and whine
and even lose all track of time.
Our friends stick by us while we heal
they understand our pain is real.
They know we must express that pain
in order to feel whole again.
Depression such a lonely place
where all of us have shown our face.
We hold our heads up as we try
to grab some hope as it goes by.
And if at first we don't succeed
we'll try again and then indeed
we shall get well, we will be glad
we need not be forever sad.
I wish that we could vow tonight
to share our strengths and hold on tight,
to take each other by the hand,
to help each other understand
there's hope for all.
We share our stories sad and true
sometimes we don't know what to do.
We cry, we moan, we wail and whine
and even lose all track of time.
Our friends stick by us while we heal
they understand our pain is real.
They know we must express that pain
in order to feel whole again.
Depression such a lonely place
where all of us have shown our face.
We hold our heads up as we try
to grab some hope as it goes by.
And if at first we don't succeed
we'll try again and then indeed
we shall get well, we will be glad
we need not be forever sad.
I wish that we could vow tonight
to share our strengths and hold on tight,
to take each other by the hand,
to help each other understand
there's hope for all.
We All Need to Be Embarrassed………….by David
Saturday, January 26th, 2008
If you treat someone differently (poorly) when you are around other people, as opposed to when it is just the two of you, then I believe you need to be told (or embarrassed). If you're told this and you are embarrassed, then you probably didn't realize you were doing it. If you're told this, you may grin and say "yes, dear". In this case you may not even care.
When I encounter people who do this it almost feels like I'm in high school again. If these people could only know or realize how they are acting, they might be embarrassed and make changes in their behavior. This will only happen if they aren't too far gone into the world they call, "me first".
Another thing people do to one degree or another is justifying our bad behavior. We blame our failures in life on other people rather than ourselves. We are so stuck in this behavior that we can't see we are depriving ourselves and our children of a happy life and I emphasize our children, because that is probably how our parents presented themselves to us. Their example for us was by not taking responsibility for ones 'self.
How do we finally change these things from happening, this passing of bad behavior from one generation to another? I believe the only way is to change our behavior and set a good example. If we did that, we would no longer need to be embarrassed.
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When I encounter people who do this it almost feels like I'm in high school again. If these people could only know or realize how they are acting, they might be embarrassed and make changes in their behavior. This will only happen if they aren't too far gone into the world they call, "me first".
Another thing people do to one degree or another is justifying our bad behavior. We blame our failures in life on other people rather than ourselves. We are so stuck in this behavior that we can't see we are depriving ourselves and our children of a happy life and I emphasize our children, because that is probably how our parents presented themselves to us. Their example for us was by not taking responsibility for ones 'self.
How do we finally change these things from happening, this passing of bad behavior from one generation to another? I believe the only way is to change our behavior and set a good example. If we did that, we would no longer need to be embarrassed.
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Not Easy Being You?………….by David
Thursday, January 10th, 2008
Is it difficult for you when you go to the Mall or other places where there are lots of people? You may have been told the following and your logical mind knows: Many people feel these insecurities to one degree or another. Still ............that doesn't turn off the voice (the feeling) which tells you that you're not as good as everyone else. It tells you this to the extreme and you may feel you don't deserve to exist. (no reference to self harm here)
In my current view, "a voice" is key. I'm not saying that we are all going around hearing voices.
I spoke to my doctor last week and at one point she was reassuring me of the fact that everyone has these insecurities. Something happened. She saw something as I was saying, "these thoughts come into my head and I can't control them." Well, she immediately started writing a prescription.
The prescription is for Ambilify, an anti-psychotic medication in the lowest dose of 2 mg. (30 mg. being the highest). When she told me this, I thought, "am I a serial killer or something?" But then I regrouped. I realize I have some thoughts I can't control. These uncontrollable thoughts are more debilitating than the average lack of self esteem or insecurities many people experience around other people. I felt sort of angry to realize I truly have no control over these thoughts, then I saw that I really do need the help of this medication.
I guess most of us need counseling over a period of years an maybe medication for depression, but if you feel your withdrawal from people is to the extreme, you may want to consider this article when talking with your doctor. We all deserve to be happy or content and, we for sure, deserve to feel safe.
In my current view, "a voice" is key. I'm not saying that we are all going around hearing voices.
I spoke to my doctor last week and at one point she was reassuring me of the fact that everyone has these insecurities. Something happened. She saw something as I was saying, "these thoughts come into my head and I can't control them." Well, she immediately started writing a prescription.
The prescription is for Ambilify, an anti-psychotic medication in the lowest dose of 2 mg. (30 mg. being the highest). When she told me this, I thought, "am I a serial killer or something?" But then I regrouped. I realize I have some thoughts I can't control. These uncontrollable thoughts are more debilitating than the average lack of self esteem or insecurities many people experience around other people. I felt sort of angry to realize I truly have no control over these thoughts, then I saw that I really do need the help of this medication.
I guess most of us need counseling over a period of years an maybe medication for depression, but if you feel your withdrawal from people is to the extreme, you may want to consider this article when talking with your doctor. We all deserve to be happy or content and, we for sure, deserve to feel safe.
Feeling Hurt or Feeling Angry?………..by David
Saturday, December 22nd, 2007
I think a very good thing to learn is the distinction between feeling hurt and feeling angry..........sometimes these two feelings are hard to separate from each other.
I believe depression is part anger. There is a very good likelihood that our anger is in more places than we think. Anger can cause willfulness..........thinking we can solve problems when the solution is out of our hands. When angry, we have a tendency to respond to insult with insult, for example, road rage with road rage. Are we hurt or are we angry?
Supposedly, the very first story was: hey, you can have all you want in this paradise.........oranges, bananas, apples, color tv (ha), etc..........but do not eat them there apples!!! Above all things remember that I am God and you AIN'T!!
Are there people who treat you this way, as if they are God? Do you respond with hurt feelings and eventually anger? It's hard to tell the difference sometimes.
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I believe depression is part anger. There is a very good likelihood that our anger is in more places than we think. Anger can cause willfulness..........thinking we can solve problems when the solution is out of our hands. When angry, we have a tendency to respond to insult with insult, for example, road rage with road rage. Are we hurt or are we angry?
Supposedly, the very first story was: hey, you can have all you want in this paradise.........oranges, bananas, apples, color tv (ha), etc..........but do not eat them there apples!!! Above all things remember that I am God and you AIN'T!!
Are there people who treat you this way, as if they are God? Do you respond with hurt feelings and eventually anger? It's hard to tell the difference sometimes.
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The Blah Cloud…………..by David
Saturday, November 10th, 2007Having the blahs means different things to different people. I'll tell you what it means to me. This condition of having the blahs isn't my worst place to be. After I clarify that, you can decide if it is your worst place to be.
The blahs are about the middle of the road for me. When I am in this state I have no motivation to do things. I'm depressed to the point that nothing seems of interest to me, nothing feels worth doing. I have to force myself to accomplish the simplest of tasks. I wait for the blah cloud to lift. Sometimes I find a way to help that cloud dissipate.
My worst state is one of being much lower than the blahs. It is a state of total depression. When I'm in that hole, I don't want to venture outside of my apartment or speak to anyone. It's a terrible and lonely place to be. The blahs are better!
Yesterday I had a conversation with sister, Susan and I asked her how she was doing. She said she had the blahs. I admitted to also being in the blah state and she said, "why don't we get together tomorrow and put our two blahs together." That's exactly what we did. Blah! Blah! A good visit with someone often helps.
It's great to have someone who knows how it feels to be in the Blahs. It helps to help someone else raise the blah cloud so that they can get back to enjoying life a bit more. Hopefully, all of us can get to that higher level more often. I'll call it "living". "Living" is a much better place than being in the "hole" or having the "blahs".
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The blahs are about the middle of the road for me. When I am in this state I have no motivation to do things. I'm depressed to the point that nothing seems of interest to me, nothing feels worth doing. I have to force myself to accomplish the simplest of tasks. I wait for the blah cloud to lift. Sometimes I find a way to help that cloud dissipate.
My worst state is one of being much lower than the blahs. It is a state of total depression. When I'm in that hole, I don't want to venture outside of my apartment or speak to anyone. It's a terrible and lonely place to be. The blahs are better!
Yesterday I had a conversation with sister, Susan and I asked her how she was doing. She said she had the blahs. I admitted to also being in the blah state and she said, "why don't we get together tomorrow and put our two blahs together." That's exactly what we did. Blah! Blah! A good visit with someone often helps.
It's great to have someone who knows how it feels to be in the Blahs. It helps to help someone else raise the blah cloud so that they can get back to enjoying life a bit more. Hopefully, all of us can get to that higher level more often. I'll call it "living". "Living" is a much better place than being in the "hole" or having the "blahs".
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