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Know Who You are Ahead of Time………by David

Sunday, March 9th, 2008

We are all as fair minded as we are going to be, at least for the time being anyway.   We may bend a little from time to time depending on different circumstances.   I feel a person needs to realize this ahead of time, so as not to be manipulated by others.   Know who you are ahead of time!

Some people will try to make you feel guilty in an effort to get more out of you.  They will attempt to get you to bend a lot more than you otherwise would.  That is when some important clichés should come into effect such as “Stick to your guns” and “If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for everything.”   Know ahead of time who you are. 

There are abused women all over the country who don’t know who they are.  They are made to feel guilty and through the guise of her man, he gets what he wants, whether it be sex or worship or both, usually both.  These women lack the confidence to know who they are ahead of time.  

We all know ahead of time there are certain things we won’t do such as going around taking our clothes off in public, robbing stores or shooting people.   These may be extreme examples, but they are examples that most of us can give a clear yes or no answer to as far as whether we would do them or not.  Well, I believe we can condition ourselves and change our lives by extending that principle to all aspects of our everyday living.

Will we allow people to manipulate us?  Yes or no?  If we are so lonely that we put up with that kind of behavior from people, then maybe there is no hope.   Did you like seeing the words, no hope?  I sure didn’t.  I don’t even know you and I wouldn’t wish that on you or anyone!

If you were in Missouri and you were going to drive to California, you shouldn't end up in Maine.  You would want to follow a road map which is what I think we all need in our everyday lives, along with the most important words, yes or no.....not maybe!


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We All Need to Be Embarrassed………….by David

Saturday, January 26th, 2008
If you treat someone differently (poorly) when you are around other people, as opposed to when it is just the two of you, then I believe you need to be told (or embarrassed).  If you're told this and you are embarrassed, then you probably didn't realize you were doing it.  If you're told this, you may grin and say "yes, dear".   In this case you may not even care.

When I encounter people who do this it almost feels like I'm in high school again.  If these people could only know or realize how they are acting, they might be embarrassed and make changes in their behavior.  This will only happen if they aren't too far gone into the world they call, "me first". 

Another thing people do to one degree or another is justifying our bad behavior.  We blame our failures in life on other people rather than ourselves.  We are so stuck in this behavior that we can't see we are depriving ourselves and our children of a happy life and I emphasize our children, because that is probably how our parents presented themselves to us.  Their example for us was by not taking responsibility for ones 'self. 

How do we finally change these things from happening, this passing of bad behavior from one generation to another?  I believe the only way is to change our behavior and set a good example.   If we did that,  we would no longer need to be embarrassed. 

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Bloggers Unite in Acts of Kindness

Monday, December 17th, 2007

A White Cat For Christmas

Early in the Fall, a skinny, scrawny, white cat showed up in our yard.  She was just about the most pitiful looking cat my husband and I have ever seen.  She was obviously starving and our hearts went out to her..........

My husband, Gary, always complained about the three cats we've had during our forty years of marriage.  Two of these consecutive cats lived to approximately 13 years of age and the third is now four years old.  When we lost one cat we would wait a short time and then the kids and I would soon rescue another animal from the local shelter or save a stray in the neighborhood. 

We currently have Ozzie, our black cat.  He is declawed and lives in our home.....ruling our home.  During the past several months, Ozzie and the white cat hissed at each other through the patio doors but Ozzie seemed to enjoy keeping an eye on the white cat.  Gary began to feed her and take her fresh water twice a day.  I was very surprised that he initiated the care and feeding of the white cat. 

Ozzie soon came running to us and meowing when it was time for the white cat to be fed.  He still hissed at her and she hissed back at him, but Ozzie wanted her fed on time!

We began to worry about this white cat when the weather started turning cool.  It can get really cold here in Missouri.  Now, the white cat had filled out and was looking a lot better.  She stayed within our fenced yard most of the time which seemed a bit strange to us at first, but I believe it was her safe haven from other animals.  She had been declawed and dumped!

We decided the next step would be to put her in the garage and apply some medication to kill the many fleas she had.  Gary built her a little house and padded the floor of it with old towels.  He sat it on some cardboard boxes to keep it off the cold concrete floor.  She spends a lot of time in her new little house.  Ozzie often holds conversations with her through the door which leads to the garage.

I started thinking of names for this white cat and have recently been calling her Mandy after one of my favorite Barry Manilow songs from years ago.  It just seems to fit her.  My grandson thinks she looks like a sphinx......probably due to the fact that her head has an unusual shape with a very pointed face. 

Mandy is soon to become our white Christmas cat, joining Ozzie indoors.  We never planned on having more than one cat in the house, but sometimes you just have to reach out and help another living creature in need.  Saving an animal was my act of kindness and I'm so very glad my husband and I have added Mandy to our family.  I sure hope Ozzie will be glad too..... when his new adopted sister begins to share his domain. 



  Mandy

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Bloggers…………by Susan

Sunday, December 16th, 2007
Hi everyone.   Tonight I'm writing about a unique activity many bloggers are doing tomorrow, December 17th.   Let me explain the activity and then I'll explain how this feels for me. 

I'm a member of blogcatalog.com which is a huge website for bloggers.  Tomorrow I and other bloggers will be taking part in a Bloggers Unite activity.    We all chose an act of kindness that we wanted to perform prior to December 17th and we're all writing a post tomorrow about whatever act of kindness we chose. 

If you would like to know more about the group Bloggers Unite, please read the press release located here: 
Press Release

It always helps my state of mind when I take some responsibility in my life and do a kindness for someone.  Somehow it seems to lift a bit of sadness and depression when we step outside of ourselves and lend a helping hand.  

I hope you'll tune in tomorrow to read my blog article about the kindness I chose to do.  I really didn't help another human being but I helped nonetheless. 

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