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Senior Citizens and Depression

Tuesday, August 19th, 2008
by Susan

As a senior citizen I can tell you that depression isn't any easier to deal with as you get older.  I'm sure that must also be true for most mental health problems.   The mere fact of advancing age sometimes causes me a great deal of sadness.   This past week I also felt a lot of anger due to my having to let go of some of the things I love to do.

For many years I have been an avid gardener.  I loved growing roses, perennials, annuals and even some vegetables now and then.   We have a big yard and I had many large flower beds.  During the growing season you usually found me outside digging in the dirt planting flowers or pulling weeds.   I dug the flower beds, hauled rocks to build the borders for the beds and hauled the bags of mulch.   It has been one of my favorite hobbies through the years. 

However, the past few years it has been more and more difficult for me to do all of the necessary work to keep my gardens looking nice.   This year because of all the rain, the weeds in some areas were soon taller than I am.  Last week one of my neighbors complained.   So, my husband and I worked all weekend and we totally eliminated two large flower beds.  My feet are still sore from digging!  I plan to do the same with some of the remaining flower beds.  My gardening hobby will have to be limited, but I will still enjoy it. 

Senior citizens have to deal with a lot of acceptance when it comes to their continually decreasing physical abilities.  Even with regular exercise and good health habits we all get older and dealing with it can be depressing at times.   It's a good thing there are some perks to being a senior too.   Watching my grandson grow five inches in one year can be even more fascinating than growing plants.   Hearing my one year old granddaughter call me Nana cheers me up in no time. 


One of my prized flower beds just a few years ago.

Empty Nest Syndrome and Depression: His and Hers

Wednesday, July 2nd, 2008
My youngest child has moved out and is now married.  I am feeling depression as a result of this Empty Nest.   The wedding was beautiful and it was so good to have all of my family together again.   My oldest son left Sunday for his home and I've really felt a lot of sadness since he left.   I apologize for not updating this blog for so many days. 

I reminded my husband this evening that in the nearly 42 years of our marriage there was only one time when I didn't have a child living at home and that was the first 9 months we were married.   His response, "would it help if I started acting like a kid?"   ha!  No, I don't think it would help.  My family has been my life!

I felt the depression that goes along with Empty Nest Syndrome each time one of my four children moved out.  It never lasted too long and I'm hoping it won't with the last one either.  I have good relationships with my children and see most of them pretty often.   It makes me happy to see them happy with their lives.   Maybe that is what has cured me of this sadness and depression each time I have experienced the Empty Nest Syndrome. 

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Rain, Rain, Go Away……….by Susan

Thursday, April 10th, 2008
Right now the sun is shining in Southwest Missouri and I hope it stays that way for a while.  Rain in Missouri and Arkansas during the past few months has caused severe flooding and destruction, over and over again.   We've had way too many dreary, rainy days.  It's not only hard on those who are in the flood areas but also on those of us on higher ground enduring the onslought of sadness that often accompanies bad weather. 

Fortunately, I live about two houses uphill from a large ditch that floods my neighbors yards.   Tonight the city has turned off our water while workers attempt to repair water lines near that ditch.  No showers, laundry or washing of dishes this evening.   That work can wait but the work of overcoming the sadness and depression brought on by inclement weather is something that can't wait. 

My husband and I took a brisk walk in the recently appearing sunshine and that was very helpful in chasing away the sadness.   A bowl of ice cream seems like a good idea to me as well.  I hope writing on this blog, watching a good television program later and a good night's sleep will help me feel more like myself tomorrow.  What kinds of things help you overcome sadness brought on by bad weather?  

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Hope For All……….by Susan

Saturday, February 2nd, 2008
I try my hand at writing poetry when I'm especially depressed.  I wrote this poem a few years ago when I was going through a bad spell of depression and sadness.  The past few days have been a bit troublesome for me and I thought of this poem again and decided to share it with you. 

We share our stories sad and true
sometimes we don't know what to do.
We cry, we moan, we wail and whine
and even lose all track of time.

Our friends stick by us while we heal
they understand our pain is real.
They know we must express that pain
in order to feel whole again.

Depression such a lonely place
where all of us have shown our face.
We hold our heads up as we try
to grab some hope as it goes by.

And if at first we don't succeed
we'll try again and then indeed
we shall get well, we will be glad
we need not be forever sad.

I wish that we could vow tonight
to share our strengths and hold on tight,
to take each other by the hand,
to help each other understand
there's hope for all.


 

When Is the Right Time to Say Something?……..by Susan

Sunday, January 6th, 2008
Have you ever felt like it was necessary to say something to someone that might cause them to become upset?  How do you know when it is the right time to approach them? 

Recently something happened in my life that was very upsetting to me and I became very depressed about the situation.  I knew I would have to eventually speak up and let a loved one know how badly they hurt my feelings.  At the same time, I knew I needed to refrain from saying anything until I was better able to cope with the situation myself and speak to them in a calm manner without making accusations.

I decided to wait until after the holidays so as not to cast a shadow on Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Years.  It was a good decision, in my opinion.  This week I was able to express my feelings without becoming upset or angry and therefore preserving the relationship with the other person.  In years past, I didn't have this kind of control over my own hurt or angry feelings. 

In my past,  I  often allowed others to treat me badly without my objecting to it.   Or....I would object immediately and with anger.   Now I feel like I can choose to either say something or not, and even choose when I want to say it.  I guess I have made some progress with this thing called depression.    I am sure that sometimes I'll slip back to my old way of handling problems, but I will also continue to take steps forward in the future. 


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Merry Christmas to All of Our Readers……….Susan and David

Saturday, December 22nd, 2007
David and I would like to wish all of our blog readers a Very Merry Christmas.   If you don't celebrate Christmas, then we wish you a Happy Holiday Season. 


 

Merry Christmas to All!

We hope no one is feeling like "Ba Humbug", even though the holidays can often cause us to have more problems with depression, sadness and stress.   If you are having problems right now, please take the time to do something especially nice for yourself in an effort to make you feel better about yourself.   If you are able, reach out to someone in need and do something nice for them too.   If you get desperately depressed please seek help from loved ones or professionals. 

Don't forget to allow yourself a little time to be alone if you are spending the holidays with family.  Often the hustle and bustle can be very stressful and we deserve a bit of peace and quiet to go along with all the fun.   At our house, some of us actually take a nap after dinner on Christmas, or if the weather is decent we may take a short walk.  Most important is staying aware of our state of mind during the holidays and taking whatever actions we need to in order to have the safest and happiest Christmas possible.   


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Bloggers…………by Susan

Sunday, December 16th, 2007
Hi everyone.   Tonight I'm writing about a unique activity many bloggers are doing tomorrow, December 17th.   Let me explain the activity and then I'll explain how this feels for me. 

I'm a member of blogcatalog.com which is a huge website for bloggers.  Tomorrow I and other bloggers will be taking part in a Bloggers Unite activity.    We all chose an act of kindness that we wanted to perform prior to December 17th and we're all writing a post tomorrow about whatever act of kindness we chose. 

If you would like to know more about the group Bloggers Unite, please read the press release located here: 
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It always helps my state of mind when I take some responsibility in my life and do a kindness for someone.  Somehow it seems to lift a bit of sadness and depression when we step outside of ourselves and lend a helping hand.  

I hope you'll tune in tomorrow to read my blog article about the kindness I chose to do.  I really didn't help another human being but I helped nonetheless. 

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