Archive for the ‘Self Help’ Category

Is Apprehension the Same as Anxiety?

Sunday, October 19th, 2008

by Susan

Is apprehension the same thing as anxiety?   According to one definition of apprehension in the Encarta Dictionary,  apprehension is dread...... a feeling of anxiety or fear that something bad or unpleasant will happen.   That sounds pretty much like what most of us feel when we suffer from anxiety.  Frequently we feel this sense of dread when faced with decisions both small and large.  

There is another definition in the Encarta Dictionary which says apprehension can also mean the power or ability to grasp the importance, significance, or meaning of something.  I'm paying special attention to the words "ability to grasp".  I believe our ability to grasp a things importance, whether it be an event, an object, a person, or an idea, is vital to our happiness and peace of mind.   Sometimes we must research or study certain subjects at length in order to inform ourselves, so that we have the "ability to grasp". 

So often when we are not informed or have not yet grasped a situation, we are unsure of ourselves and others.  We find it difficult to make decisions and we suffer from anxiety(apprehension) for fear we will make the wrong decision.   At times we may spend all our time trying to convince family members and others that we know what is correct.  Are we really trying to convince ourselves when we engage in this behavior? 

There is a huge weight lifted from our shoulders when we finally do grasp and understand what we are dealing with....and when we finally do make our decision.   I believe apprehension, the ability to grasp a situation, is the best way to relieve our apprehension(anxiety) when it comes to making decisions, whether that decision involves where to make a major purchase, who to vote for, what church to attend, or decisions about daily events in our lives.   The "ability to grasp" is something most of us can achieve with a little time and effort, thus engaging in a bit of self help.   The time and effort spent might just go a long way in relieving our anxiety. 




I Wish I Looked Different

Friday, September 12th, 2008
by Susan

Sometimes I really wish I looked different.   We go through life with this one body and even though we try to keep it healthy and looking it's best we may be dissatisfied with how we look.   I am.  Women like myself, who are senior citizens, probably understand very well how this dissatisfaction with our appearance can worsen with age. 

I keep hoping I will get to the point where I'm comfortable wearing red and purple, and don't care too much anymore about how I look, but I'm not there yet.   My self esteem has always been connected to how I feel about my appearance.  Lately, I haven't had good self esteem. 

My hair is thinning and my waistline is thickening.   I know both of these things often happen to senior citizens in spite of exercise and eating right.   I know aging is a normal process but by golly......we don't have to like it.   I want to age gracefully and happily and I know acceptance is the key to achieving that wish.   I'm just not ready.  I wish I looked different.........younger, thinner and happier.  

I know I'm not the only one who feels this way.   According to one article I found, many people are actually Obsessing On Body Image.   I'm not obsessing yet, but just having a rant tonight.   Thanks for reading. 

Self Help For Depression

Wednesday, August 13th, 2008
by Susan

We all need help at times, even when professional help is not available to us.  It's a good idea to have some self help skills when it comes to managing our depression or anxiety.   Most of us don't have the time or the money to see a professional everyday or every time we have a problem, so we need to learn good methods of coping that can be used on a daily basis.   Good coping skills can also help you to reduce your medication and your visits to professionals.  

I used to see an excellent psychologist, off and on, for about 20 years.   He taught me many things I can do on my own to deal with my ongoing anxiety and depression problems.   The self help skills he taught me have been the most valuable skills I've ever learned and I still use them on a daily basis.   Simple things like deep breathing, journaling (or blogging now), exercise and eating well.  There are many, many more. 

Recently I came across a self help book online that I thought some of our readers might like to explore.   It's called Psychological Self-Help by Dr. Clayton E. Tucker-Ladd.   This is a free download and might give you some good ideas on how to help you feel better.  


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